How to Find a Sugar Baby: Get SBs Online and Offline and Stay Safe

How hard can it be to find a young girl to go out with you for money? It seems like a no-brainer until you try and run into a scammer. Or get slapped for assuming a girl is into compensated relationships. This is the most practical guide you’ll find on how to find a sugar baby (online and offline), how to work out your sugar arrangements, and how to stay safe doing so.

Where to Find a Sugar Baby Offline

If one of your pals has a sugar baby, you can ask him to introduce you to some of her friends. That’s the easiest and fastest approach, but it doesn’t offer much choice. You get a referral, and you either suit each other or not. Besides, this won’t work if none of your friends are into sugar dating.

The next obvious option is a college campus. Considering most sugar babies are in their early 20s and looking for help with tuition, campus coffee shops and bars are a great place to look for SBs. Just make sure you don’t look too out of place, like a professor or a concerned father visiting his daughter.

Essentially, you can look for sugar babies anywhere, from your gym to the bodega on the corner. Still, it’s better to find SBs in places you don’t frequent, especially if you want your sugar dating to stay secret and removed from your daily life. Otherwise, you’ll need to come up with convincing answers to awkward questions.

If you don’t want to cause a scene and have drinks thrown in your face, you need to work on subtlety. After all, you cannot come up to a girl and offer to pay her to go out (or have sex) with you. Instead, you want to start a casual conversation and subtly learn how much debt she’s in. If she admits to being single and struggling to pay rent, that’s a good sign she’s seeking help and could be open to a sugar relationship. You can discuss your needs and negotiate the terms from there.

How to Find a Sugar Baby Online

If you spend hours scrolling through Instagram or Facebook feeds, try shifting your focus to potential sugar babies. It’s free and convenient but pretty time-consuming since most women do not advertise their sugar arrangements in their personal profiles. Those who do are usually scammers looking to steal your money.

Niche sugar dating platforms are more convenient and efficient, and the risk of running into scammers is much lower. The biggest downside is the cost of premium membership, which unlocks private chats. If you’re willing to invest around $100 into quality sugar matches, it will only take you a few steps to find a sugar baby:

1. Set up a sugar dating profile. Prioritize high-resolution photos and upload at least 3 pictures without filters or other tricks to make you look better. Use the profile description to outline your main sugar baby requirements and limitations. For example, if you want an offline sexual relationship, be upfront about it to avoid wasting time on girls interested in cyber affairs.
2. Find compatible sugar babies. Most platforms use location and age as the primary search tools, but you can also specify your appearance preferences. For example, if you’re into curvy Latinas, use filters to cut out all the sugar babies who don’t match your type. If possible, focus on verified profiles with plenty of photos and videos to help you visualize an SB before your first date.
3. Talk to potential sugar babies. You can wait for them to contact you first, but there’s no harm in starting chats with the girls you like. Instead of the stock conversation starters, mention something specific you like about their photos or profile to let them know you’re paying attention. Remember to include a question to prompt a response.
4. Negotiate preliminary arrangement terms. If your conversation goes well and you’d like to meet, discuss the basics. Negotiate how often you’d want to meet, how much you’d be willing to pay, and what you expect from a sugar baby. You can settle the specifics on your meet-and-greet, but there’s no sense wasting time if you can’t agree on the rough allowance estimate or sexual preferences.
5. When you’re at the M&G stage, arrange your first date. It should be in a public place, preferably before dark. You don’t have to pay for the first date, but most sugar babies will expect you to cover their drinks and food. Some may also need you to cover their Uber fare or gas. M&G is your chance to see what a sugar baby looks like in person without filters or Photoshop and whether you have chemistry. If you enjoy each other’s company and wish to try for more, discuss your next date. 

Instead of plunging head-first into a monthly allowance arrangement, work out a pay-per-meet (PPM) arrangement first. It will let you enjoy a one-time meeting with a sugar baby to decide if she matches your needs (sexual and otherwise) without wasting much time and money. Only arrange a monthly allowance if you’re happy with the sugar baby’s performance.

How to Get a Sugar Baby and Stay Safe

Before you try either an offline or an online sugar dating approach, you need to do your homework:

1. Set up a separate email, messengers, and phone number. DO NOT share your private or work contacts with sugar babies, especially if you’re married. You want to funnel all your communication into separate accounts.
2. Start a list of locations for your sugar dates. It may not be necessary if you don’t mind your colleagues or friends knowing about your sugar dating. But if you do, choose the bars, restaurants, and hotels where you’re least likely to run across acquaintances.
3. Set up a budget and schedule for sugar dating. Decide how much of your disposable income you’re willing to spend on sugar babies, and do not exceed this number. Remember that it won’t just cover the SB allowance; you’ll pay for sugar dating site membership and the cost of the dates, gifts, etc. You should also consider how many free evenings you have per week (or month) to choose the best allowance arrangement. For example, if you can only meet twice a month, a PPM arrangement is the most logical (and inexpensive) option.

That’s just the preliminary work for becoming a sugar daddy. Now, let’s talk about the safety precautions to protect you from falling prey to online romance scammers:

• All personal information is sensitive, so keep it private. Sugar babies don’t need to know your full name or where you live or work. And they should definitely never ask for your credit card or bank account details. If you get too many suspicious questions online, block and report sugar babies so the dating site administration can review and suspend their profiles.
• Shortened URL links spell out trouble. Scammers can couch the offer to click on the link as a chance for you to save money on dating site membership. In the best-case scenario, you’ll connect using a messenger. In the worst-case scenario, you’ll either open a phishing website or a malware download link. Either of these can cause much damage.
• Explicit photos and videos make you vulnerable to blackmail. It’s normal to swap nude pictures or make naughty videos for each other when you trust your SB. However, sharing explicit materials with strangers is always a bad idea. They can threaten to publish your photos or videos online and ruin your reputation unless you agree to their terms.
• Real sugar babies never ask for payment in advance. Experienced SBs know not to expect payment until after the meet and greet, but scammers will tell you sob stories and ask for small sums to tide them over. If you transfer the funds, you’ll likely never hear from them again.

Sugar daddies must be just as cautious in the early stages of a relationship as sugar babies. You never know whether you’re dealing with a genuine SB or a gang preying on wealthy men. So there’s nothing wrong with being a little paranoid, as long as it doesn’t ruin the fun.

Final Thoughts

Like everything great in life, sugar dating requires some know-how and experience. Hopefully, our practical tips and safety recommendations will help you find your perfect sugar baby and stay out of trouble. While you might be tempted to skip the preliminary preparations, they’ll be worth your time and effort. Besides, it doesn’t take much, and you’ll be able to let go and enjoy your sugar arrangement in full, knowing your reputation and assets are secure.