How to Become a Sugar Daddy: Beginner’s Guide + Safety Tips

All the benefits of a relationship without the responsibilities and other downsides—who wouldn’t want that? If you’re willing to part with some of your disposable income to get what you want from sugar babies, this guide is for you. We’ll share practical tips and safety rules every new sugar daddy should know.

How to Become a Sugar Daddy: Top 3 Options

If you have trouble approaching women to get their numbers or offer drinks, finding a sugar baby might seem like an impossible feat. But it’s much easier than it sounds if you know the top three strategies. You can become a sugar daddy through:

Other sugar daddies. If one of your pals is already in a satisfying sugar relationship, ask his SB to introduce you to some of her friends. It’s the fastest and most reliable option, but only available if you know someone in the sugar bowl.
Offline meetings. Despite the common misconception, you can find a sugar baby anywhere: at a gym, grocery store, or coffee shop. The trick is to learn if a girl is interested in sugar arrangements without getting accused of sexual harassment. The easiest way to check is to start a casual conversation and subtly ask about the girl’s rent and other expenses. If she’s single and struggles to make ends meet, you can offer to help her in exchange for a few favors.
Niche sugar dating sites. On the upside, millions of sugar babies are eager to meet, and you don’t have to feel awkward negotiating the terms since everyone is on the same page. On the downside, reputable sugar dating sites come with premium membership fees, and there’s always a chance of running into fake profiles or scammers. Still, if you’re after SBs under 30, online sugar dating is your best bet, as long as you follow basic safety rules (see below).

If possible, combine the three approaches, and you’ll become a sugar daddy in no time.

How to Be a Sugar Daddy

What’s complicated about being a sugar daddy? You find a girl and pay her for dating you. But as with everything else in life, it’s a bit more complicated than that. For one, you’ll need to do your homework and prepare for sugar dating. Here’s a list of basic things you’ll need to be a sugar daddy:

A new email to register at sugar dating sites and share with sugar babies. Do not use your personal or business accounts.
An attractive, attention-grabbing sugar dating site profile that’s impossible to trace to your social media or business profiles.
Burner phone or a separate phone number reserved for sugar dating.
Cash or a cash app account connected to your credit card for secure payments.
A selection of suitable cafes and restaurants for meet-and-greets and a place to spend the nights with sugar babies if you don’t want to bring them home.

Once you have this setup, you can work on your sugar daddy persona and ramp up your dating game.

How to Be a Good Sugar Daddy

Sugar dating isn’t only about sex; it’s a relationship. Like any relationship, it requires give and take, meeting each other’s needs.

So, to be a good sugar daddy, you first need to be honest about what you want from a sugar baby. Do you just need sex or arm candy for business events? Do you enjoy showering women with gifts or want someone to listen to your rants about incompetent colleagues?

When you have a clear understanding of your needs, learn what your sugar baby wants. Some just need help staying afloat through college. Others wish to explore the world and would happily join you on business trips. Some SBs want to gain more sexual experience and live out their fantasies.

Once you know what you want and what your sugar baby needs, it’s about finding the best ways to satisfy both of your desires. For example, if you’re in a bad mood after a hard day at work, why not put all that negative energy to good use and experiment with some of the hard-core fantasies you share with your SB? Just remember to negotiate your kinks, limits, and safe words beforehand.

How Much Does It Cost to Be a Sugar Daddy?

Sugar dating costs are negotiable. There are too many factors to consider to provide a precise estimate, but we can make a few educated guesses:

If you live in a big city, expect to pay about $300 to $600 for a night together. In smaller towns with fewer SDs and SBs, you can get the pay-per-meet cost down to $150 to $300 per date.
Sugar babies in large cities will expect an allowance of $4,000+ per month, but you’ll usually be able to meet once or twice per week. Small-town sugar babies are less demanding and will settle for $1,500 to $3,000 monthly.
If you’re in a long-term sugar relationship, an SB may expect you to cover her shopping expenses (up to $2,000 per month), SPA treatments, and gym membership ($100 to $1,000 per month).
The PPM and allowance do not cover additional expenses. For example, you’ll have to pay for dinner, Uber, and a hotel stay if you prefer your SB doesn’t know where you live.

As you can see, the cost of being a sugar daddy varies greatly, but in most cases, you’ll need at least $2,000 of disposable income every month to support your sugar baby. If you’re willing to share with other SDs, her demands might be lower. Ultimately, you’ll have to negotiate to ensure your expenses remain within the budget you set for your sugar lifestyle.

Safety-First Sugar Daddy Rules

Sugar dating is supposed to be fun and exciting, and it can be if you know how to recognize red flags and avoid trouble. So here’s a quick reminder of how to stay safe in your early sugar dating days:

Do not share sensitive personal information with sugar babies. This includes your full name, home address, landline or personal phone number, place of work, social security number, etc.
Keep your financial details private. Do not disclose your bank account, credit card, or cash app details.
Avoid suspicious links, especially shortened URLs. They may lead you to phishing sites and clones of reputable payment systems designed to steal your payment details and clean out your accounts.
Ignore payment offers and investment advice. The former may get you flagged for fraudulent activity, while the latter is the fastest way to lose your nest egg.
Be careful with explicit materials online. You can swap steamy photos and videos once you know a sugar baby, but avoid sharing them with SBs you’ve only just met online. It could make you a victim of blackmail.
Arrange meet-and-greets in public settings. While sugar babies are more likely to get in trouble at M&Gs, SDs can also become victims. So, avoid meeting in private until you get to know each other better.
Do not pay for the first meet-and-greet. It’s more of a job interview, so while you can cover the drinks, food, and gas, SBs should not expect you to pay for a date if you don’t get anything in return.

Hopefully, you won’t have to rely on these rules to stay out of trouble, but it’s still a good idea to keep them in mind.

Final Thoughts

If you’re serious about sugar dating, it’s worth the time and effort to set up your sugar daddy routine from the get-go. It will save you time and money in the long run. So, use our tips and enjoy trouble-free sugar dating.